Dr confirmed my suspicions.

Thanks Julie. 

I was sizing up my DH's foot...it's considerably bigger than mine.  A better fit for a bigger ass.

I am so sorry! 

I can say that I had my regular OBGYN tell me to go forth and make babies (when I was overweight) and then when it didn't happen went to the recommened fertility clinic and after lots of questions, 2 exams (intern / student) and the specialist...he looked at me and told me that I too dangerous to help have a baby and that I needed to drop some significant weight. It wasn't that he couldn't help me, it was that he wouldn't.  (I was 220, the lighest I had been in 5 years).  I was so hurt and heartbroken...but boy was I pissed too.  He could have looked at my records, looked at me clothed and told me that...Ugh.  Some Dr's are clueless.

I went to a great clinic after WLS and they were wonderful to me...very encouraging, willing to run tests, etc.  They do a lot of papers and education.  Dr Richard Legro.  They requested a picture of Sophie so they could see her..I laughed and said something like- I bet you get a million of those..but the Dr smiled and said we love every single one of those.  That is when I knew the clinic really liked what they did it wasn't just another place and another $ to them.  Though they have their good and bad points just like everywhere.

Hugs, and I am so sorry.

Thank you Jenn.  I'll look up your dr and see what I can find out.  Wherever I go, I'll call them from here first and talk to them and see if they think it'll do any good to come see them, if they think there's anything they can do beyond the tests I've already had...but your dr seems to have the right attitude.

I am going to come out of hiding for you;)

So sorry this is happening again.  As for the repeated miscarriages at 6 weeks.  If you aren't already on it, read up on metformin helping repeated early loss.  It is a drug for insulin resistance, but they are starting to prescribe it for those that aren't IR or PCOS because it helps with that.  There is a clinic in NY that automatically just prescribes it now after 3 losses.  It won't harm you if you don't need it.

It is a drug mainly for IR or PCOS.  They are finding that insulin resistance may be an arbitrary number now.  10 or less may fine for one person, but another person requires your body to be at 7 or less, for example.  And if your body isn't using insulin efficiently it will lead to poor quality eggs.

At any rate, read up -- it may be a possible next step for you if you haven't gone down that path.

Thank you Ann.  I'll add it to my list (I'm literally making one) of things to look up.

Will I be able to find the NY clinic online?  Or can you tell me what it is so I can talk to them too?

I hope one day you come out of hiding for good...I miss you being around.

What the hell does your age have to do with anything?  Your doctor sounds like a huge ass crack.  But you already know that!  :o)

I wish I knew what to say to you.  I am sorry you have had m/c's and you don't have one single answer that makes any sense.  Doctor's are so quick to blame SOMETHING:  our age, weight, etc. instead of finding the real answer.

Good luck to you, and YOU deserve the hug. 

Thanks Stacy.  I did mention (probably not very nicely)  today that I am not 70 years old trying to have a baby...and that women all over the world older than me are having perfectly healthy babies...and women 20 years younger than me are having babies w/chromosomal problems...that it can happen to any one at any time...but all he does is sit there and nod.  All the drs here just sort of  nod when they hear my age and the blood clotting problems and mentally pat me on the head as if I'm a drooling idiot and remind me of these facts.  Hopefully I can find someone in the States who will listen rather than tune me out once they hear the age/blood clotting facts.

Who cares if you were nice about it or not?   This is what you felt like while he just sat there and nodded his head. I have a tendency to become Super ***** when someone annoys me, especially when it's the same **** over and over again. 

Good luck in finding a doctor that is really going to listen to you and help you figure out a solution to your problem. 

I'm so sorry Holly, *BIG HUGS*...
-Donna

Thanks Donna.  I'll survive....I just want to know if I'm banging my head on the wall while doing so.